Me my boyfriend have been dating year

If she were to change my mind about breaking up with her, I would want her to perhaps behave a little better, fix some problems and most of all fix "our" problems.

When a relationship is formed, all different appealing aspects of the person are brought into view; their charm, their hobbies, their interests, their personality, and their openness.In other words, things that may have drawn the person to you originally will not be as prominent as they once were.Instead, it will come to the point where one partner, usually ahead of the other's time, will evaluate the relationship based on what they do not relate to in the other person.Maybe don't approach the situation as "how can I change their mind", but more "how can I figure out what their reasoning is, and is it because of something more serious (like incompatibility on things they feel are really important) or something that we can work through together?"I think the first point to address here is the 'mind changing' part. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person-- without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.