The best question I’ve found for finding out someone’s hobbies is: Some people say you shouldn’t talk about work. When you stop and listen to what people usually talk about, work and school are at the top of the list.After all, people do spend several hours a day at these places.Often people assume that the topic of your conversation has to be super-interesting. I’ve heard comedians describe themselves making a sandwich…and hundreds of people sat listening with riveted attention.For some reason, people love talking about stories and the characters inside them they feel like they know.There’s always new ones coming out, so the topic never really gets stale. Everybody eats, and most people enjoy talking about their personal taste in food.And their work or school are often related to an area they’re very passionate about.
Because of the law of reciprocity, the other person will usually share what countries they’ve been to automatically, or they may ask you a question about your travels.
If this is your first conversation with someone, then don’t try to figure out the meaning of life. The challenge with talking about past experiences, is that you usually don’t want to get too personal too quickly.
If you do, the conversation may start to sound like a therapy session.
The lesson here is that conversations usually flow smoother when you make more statements instead of always asking questions.
Other people do love talking about themselves, but you have to contribute to the conversation, too.